Why women should give firm handshake?

There are growing discussions around bringing more women to executive roles. Women should continue to work on making little improvements. Little steps would have a ripple effect in improving the overall (working) environment for women. One cannot ask for a position without showing the right attitude and skill to hold that position.

To begin with, can we ask women to give a firm handshake during business meetings? In most meetings, men in the room would shake hands with everyone and women will either restrict themselves to wishing “Hi” with a hesitant, withdrawn handshake or just a wish.

Why there is hesitation? One of the possible reasons could be that most of us grew up in a patriarchal society. Inferiority complex is seeded in our mind. Deep down we think men are better than us. Or even if they are not better, we are afraid of breaking the yesteryear rules. As if, it would be a ‘Crime‘. Having said it has been noticed that the change is happening fast. In last 2 years, there are more women executives announced compared to previous years.

As we become more confident and take up more responsibility, we would be eventually breaking the mold. The next step would be to let the world know about this new-found confidence.

One should have a firm handshake and have a proper eye contact during the shake. Eye contact is important too. Body language conveys a lot about your confidence and shows how promising you are! If you are not confident about yourself and your ideas, how do you expect other people to believe in you?

Lean In, the book by Sherly Sandberg, discusses this topic practically. She talks about her personal experiences – how she went into an executive meeting in client’s office and there was no women toilet on that floor. Apparently, the company never felt the need to have a women toilet on the floor. That’s just a glimpse of women representation at the executive level. One could count the number of female leaders in leadership positions. And those who are, half of them comes from a strong economic background.

Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook COO

I am not saying that one should be biased towards women during hiring. The only ask is that there shouldn’t be any biases at all. A job should be given based on merit and not based on certain prejudices.

The other point that Sherly discusses is that woman doesn’t ask questions. Whether it is meeting or conference, they would never raise hands. Again, why? Why don’t we ask questions? Asking right questions is more important than giving right answers. Because right questions lead people to relevant answers.

She also mentioned that during the meetings, women will always take back seats. Even if there are empty seats in the front, they won’t grab them. And that shows that they are not taking enough initiatives to progress. They are either happy or afraid of taking risks. If you want something you have to ask for it. One has to show the willingness.

It’s also important that women cheer up each other’s success. Support one another to be more confident and move up the corporate ladder. All can be done but I think, to begin with, start with a firm handshake with an eye contact. This slight change will make a huge difference in your personality and that is a promise!



This is the third nugget I am sharing in last few months. As readers show more support, I am excited to bring you more. These ideas come from daily life experiences and learning.

Today’s Nugget:  Difference of Opinion is inevitable

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Difference of Opinion

When we deal with humans, there is always different opinions. Everyone has a unique ‘thinking‘ based on their upbringing, growing up conditions and teachings from early days. And of course, even siblings don’t have same experiences. The difference of opinion is bound to happen.

There are few things that influence people’s opinion — Human ‘nature‘ of quickly jumping into conclusion (without finding out facts) and their own vested interest. These are the reasons why difference of opinion is inevitable. The only way is to steer the differences towards being more constructive than destructive. With destruction, no one gains, but if the conversation is led in a positive direction then two good ideas mingle together to make it a great one.

To start a constructive debate, the first step is acceptance. Once the problem(differences) is identified and recognized then the solution can be worked out. Everyone should agree to let go a little and work towards that ONE BIG IDEA. Letting go of the personal gains is important in achieving any success over differences.

We see the difference of opinion everywhere – between husband and wife, between parents and child, between friend, in offices and what not.  From now one, be determined to steer any differences in a positive direction and come up with a inclusive (agreeable to everyone) idea. Never destroy relationships due to differences.


Why ‘Reading’ is important for everyone?

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Book Reading

With the advent of smartphones and Social Media, young people are losing interest in reading. They are mugging up course books and pass exams to get into next level. But are they really learning?!

I live in a city where we are privileged to have a public library in every corner. It is so much easier. We can go to the library, browse books, newspaper/ magazines or bring them home. Libraries are a knowledge powerhouse. A temple for book readers. Not everyone has access to such facilities but still, they can either buy or share books. One shouldn’t STOP reading. I think we are forgetting the reasons why we should read. And here, I am giving you reasons to read:

5 reasons why it is important to read

1) Gives you perspectives

As I mentioned in my earlier posts, our judgment is based on what we are being taught during childhood days. Later, our perspective is shaped based on the world around us. It teaches a lot. But still, the world around us could be limiting. One needs to know what happens beyond their own world. Many people prefer to travel for the same reasons – To know more, to understand more. Not everyone has the luxury to travel to places. You have a chance to escape through your books.

2) More knowledgeable than peers

Reading differentiates between literates and illiterates. By illiterates, I don’t mean those who cannot read or write. There is another kind of modern day illiterate who can read and write but have no knowledge. You discuss any topic related to women issues, international trade, sports or anything at all. They don’t know and they don’t care. I am sure you don’t want to be in that position.

3) Knowledge brings more wealth

This will capture your interest. Yes, it will! The more knowledge you acquire the more ideas you get your hands on to. Don’t you notice that all rich and successful people read and they read a lot! Reading helps open your mind. For example – if you are reading biographies, you know how other people have done in the past. It shows you new path or direction. There are many people who read just to get ideas on making more money.

4) Reading inspires you

It is evident that reading has changed many lives. Any topic that you strongly feel about, read about it. Get more knowledge on the same. It can inspire you to an extent that has no limits. You know sometimes we reach a stage when we start questioning everything around us. And that one ’cause’ could give you a strong reason to contribute to the world or humanity. Everyone needs an inspiration in life. And that inspiration won’t come from everyday chores. It comes from Reading.

5) Reading is fun

If you have not been exposed to this part of the fun then you should check with your “reader” friends? They will tell you “book reading” is the biggest addiction on earth. And there is no rehabilitation center to cure that. It is a good addiction. I know people who have taken a vacation just to go on an island with a box of books and never came out of their rooms. Books can be another quick and cheap getaway from a regular ordinary life. The success of books like Harry Porter series, Twilight or Sophie’s world explains the very same fact.

I am part of this amazing Book reader group. We meet once a month and discuss the book. The discussion is full of creative and intellectual juices. When you hear different point of views about the same subject, it opens your mind. I have been enjoying the group and now I am inviting you to join. The only catch is that you must finish the book in 4 weeks. Most of us are working and we still find time to read. We read all sorts of genres and at this point, we are trying to read one book from each genre. You can more than welcome to suggest your favorite and if your book wins maximum votes (from members) then we discuss the book in next meeting. Isn’t it exciting?! So, drop me a note if you want to be part of this.


Digital Roles available in Singapore!


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Digital channels

Finding a right talent has always been challenging for any company. At times, you have the right candidate but the salary expectations don’t match or could be some other issue. The recruiter’s job is even tougher now. She not only has to match skills but also make sure that employees stay longer. In this volatile market, finding someone who can do multi-tasking, has a great attitude, has an excellent product knowledge and is ready to start asap. Many permutations and the combination should match before the hiring materializes.

Digital skills have always been in demand. The growing influence of technology has created rapid demand. The talent available in the market is also over-rated. They are reaping the benefit of lack of talent in the market.

In my articles on LinkedIn, I discussed ways to resolve the dearth of talent in the region. And that is through investment in digital training. Not only an individual but companies have to start looking at training or reskilling their employees. And that is futuristic.

There are some roles that I have come across and looking for right talent :

Digital Media Buyer (Strategy + Implementation)
Client side
Market : APAC
Budget : 95K Max.
Experience : Agency experience is preferred. 7-8 years (Singapore experience required)

Programmatic Manager
Agency Role
Market : APAC
Budget : Last drawn (Nego)
Experience : 5-6 years (Singapore experience required)

Social Manager
Agency Role
Market : APAC
Budget : Last drawn (Nego)
Experience : 5-6 years (Singapore experience required)

Search Manager
Agency Role
Market : APAC
Budget : Last drawn (Nego)
Experience : 5-6 years (Singapore experience required)

Search Specialist
Publisher Role (CONTRACT ONE YEAR)
Market : APAC
Budget : Last drawn (Nego)
Experience : 5-6 years (Singapore experience required)

PRs/Singaporeans preferred but foreigners living in singapore are welcome to apply.

If you know anyone, please drop a comment below for more info.


Powerful tool on client leadership!

Empowering Women

I don’t know how many of you got a chance to go to corporate training. Usually, corporate training is supposed to be fun. Relaxing on the beach, boozing and partying are common in most training. Training is one of the perks that bigger organisations use as a bait to retain their top-performing employees. I was totally hooked on to it and attended several training sessions. Our training used to be gruesome but fun.

Most of the training that I attended was based on Time Management skills, Client servicing, Pitching process, Financials etc. One of the most interesting training was Client Leadership . It felt as if I got a tool for life. It is very powerful and can be applied anywhere in corporate life. There was a two-day training in phuket. I am not sure if I can detail out the entire learning but I will share as much I could –

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5 Reasons why you shouldn’t cancel appointments

The reason I felt the need to write this post is because I have noticed that people generally tend to cancel their appointment at last minute. And that is not good. Not only for a business meeting but even for a casual meeting, in case you have an appointment fixed, make sure you honor that.

For example – You have a fixed appointment for a deal. But just before the meeting you got to know that there are chances of getting a better deal. One generally tend to cancel this appointment to secure the other one. In business, this is justified because one goes for a better deal. But what I am trying to say– don’t cancel your scheduled appointment. Meet the person and let her know that you have a better offer and you would like to consider that. This way you would set their expectations. They may be disappointed but they will respect you for the gesture.

Similarly, you have fixed an appointment with a friend. You don’t want to go as you don’t feel like stepping out. That is not acceptable. And below are reasons why you shouldn’t just cancel your fixed meeting.

5 reasons you shouldn’t cancel an appointment:

1) Expectations from both sides:

Hard to predict what the other person is expecting out of this meeting. She could be excited to talk about her new project or any new thoughts. She could be going through a bad time and needs a friend. Or she has a proposal for you to consider. If you cancel the meeting last minute, you are losing an opportunity to hear her side of the story.

2) Disappointing & Hurtful:

If an appointment is fixed means the time has been booked in advance. Both sides are looking forward to it. Last minute, you hear about cancellations. This is disappointing. You have to weigh options, the urgent matter is more important than the meeting. In case it is unavoidable, make sure you call and apologize.

3) Time is wasted:

When an appointment is booked means that someone has allocated time for you. It is hard to rejig the calendar if the meeting gets canceled last minute. You will end up wasting someone else’s time. Time is important for everyone.

4) Mutual Respect:

Cancelling an appointment is a big blow to the mutual respect. Even though the other person says ‘ok’ for the reschedule, she is disappointed. She doesn’t look at you in same way as it was before. It gets worse if you don’t call to apologize and request for rescheduling. Canceling appointment should be last option.

5) Speaks a volume about you as “human being”:

Honouring appointments speak a lot about the kind of person you are. Your sensitivity and respect (for others) will earn you similar sensitivity and respect. People would like to be associated and you may end up benefitting in the long run.

I have had people who cancelled dinner appointments on the same day. We had started the preparations and last minute the person called to inform that he had prior engagements and he double-booked himself. Of course, the apology was accepted but the reason for cancelling the appointment did anger me. He is still not being invited for dinner.

Similarly, a friend requested for a lunch appointment. And on the same day, she canceled it. The time was being booked for about a week. Though I understand that she may have something important to attend but how many times it happens that we end up canceling appointments for no good reason.

I want people to realize that how bad it is to cancel appointments! Don’t do that unless it is necessary.

Do share with us if you had similar experiences.

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Wait for your ship to come in!

Wait for your ship to come

At a young age, I read somewhere “Don’t wait for your ship to come in, Row out to meet it”. Since then it lingered in my mind. It perfectly matched with my personality. I am always filled with energy and ready to act. That means that if I want something, I would always take an initiative to get that. One of the reasons why I traveled several miles away from my hometown to a big city was because I was searching for a new and different life. Since then, there is no stopping. Whatever I desired in life, I always jump on to find ways to get it. Most of the time I was successful. So, this teaching did work for me.

After gaining many years of experience, I realized that it is not always good to take that first step. One needs to assess whether it is worth going to the ship or wait for the ship at the shore. At times, virtues like patience and endurance bear sweeter fruits. In the end, if it doesn’t work out then probably, something better is waiting for you.

For example – If you want to go to good school, you would give your best to get in. Let’s change a situation – If you are keen to join a company, you would wait for the best offer.
Another example – If you want to make good friends, you would reach out to people. But if you are in a romantic relationship, you would wait for another person to respond your interest.

All I am saying is to evaluate a situation and strategise on how would you approach. Always being a go-getter doesn’t help. People may view you as an aggressor or an opportunist. The aggressor is not necessarily a terrible thing. There are situations that need you to have an aggressive attitude. Aggressors have better survival instincts too.

But it is not necessarily that aggressors will always get the best deal. If that would be the case, then the only people who are ever successful in life would be go-getters. And that’s not true. People, who are less aggressive but successful, give credit to luck/fate. According to them, they never thought or worked towards achieving the success. It happened along the way. They were only focussing on their work. And enjoyed what they were doing.

The challenge with go-getters is they don’t handle their disappointments very well. If they don’t achieve their goal, they get disheartened. They invest all their energy and focus on getting to the ship. At times their estimation of the time/effort isn’t correct. That leads them to the feeling of failure. Again failing is not a bad thing. People should learn from their failures and do better in life. Obsessing over a goal is not good.

Go-getters tend to overlook many good things in life including relationships due to their obsession towards goal.

To all young people out there, be more calculative on your life goals and decide on which strategy works best. So, you will not be just successful but satisfied at the same time. Success and satisfaction should go hand in hand for a happy life.